“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” If this is true, which five people would you like to spend your time with?
I find this prompt to be challenging because I originally read it incorrectly. I read it as “…which five people do you like to spend your time with?” So since I am mentally prepared for how I originally read the prompt, I’m going to roll with it! Funny how one little word can change the whole meaning to a question.
The five people I spend my most time with aren’t always in person. It’s almost always over the phone actually, through text or phone calls.
Number 1 on my list is my mother. She is my other half, quite literally. I talk to her every single day. She moved to Louisville, Kentucky in July 2014. Luckily I have family there and it is only a 6 hour drive but it’s still too far! She is my biggest supporter and is always encouraging. I wouldn’t be who I am without her influence. Sometimes we joke that we are the same person just at different points in life. It seems our lives run parallel to each other. We always have a similar situation going on, whether it is internal or external. I’m so grateful to have such a strong connection with someone, and even more grateful that person is my mom.
Number 2 is my best friend, Lexie, who I have the privilege of seeing all the time. We were friends in high school but lost touch when she went to college. When she graduated and started working I reached out to her, and the rest is history. We have so much fun together! She brings me out of my comfort zone and I feel like we could conquer the world when we are together. We spend so much time together I’m pretty sure we’ve started communicating in a different language. She lives life as if every day could be her last and I respect that about her so much. Our motto has become “If Not Now, When?” which has gotten us into a little trouble but also created some of my most fond memories. I consider her a sister and her parents and siblings my family as well. Everyone needs that kind of a friend! It means so much to me since I only have my immediate family in Pittsburgh and my extended family is mostly out of state. I attend all of their family gatherings and their exclusive annual Christmas party. I am so thankful for Alexis and to be a member of the Wilkerson family.
Number 3 is my best friend, Julie, who I don’t see nearly often enough. Julie is only an hour drive away but that seems to be on the other side of the world sometimes. But that doesn’t stop us from having an awesome friendship and not a day goes by when I don’t talk to her. We met only a few years ago through our boyfriends. I was dating someone at the time that played on the same baseball team as her long term boyfriend, Steve, and we had an instant connection. She is an amazing person inside and out and I know what we have will last a life time! I learn so much from her and her life experiences, and I know she will always be there for me. She has seen me at my worst and most embarrassing moments and has never judged me for any of them. Julie is someone I will always want to have in my life because she makes me a better person. Same goes to Steve. Their relationship is one that I want for myself one day.
Number 4 is my best friend, Alex, who I see less than Alexis but more than Julie. Alex is from Phoenix, Arizona and we met about 3 or 4 years ago when she got a job at the bank I work at. We ended up moving in together and living in an apartment for a little over a year. When the lease was up she wanted to be closer to her Pittsburgh family, and I wanted to be closer to mine so we both moved back home. I think it says a lot that we were able to remain good friends after living together! She no longer works at the bank but we still manage to see each other every other week or so. She is one of the funniest people I know! Alex has no filter and speaks her mind. She has taught me to stand up for myself and to not be so uptight. I look up to her and can count on her to be there for me when I’m having a meltdown, or when I need makeup and hair advice. When we lived together I didn’t know how to wear makeup, now I’m a pro thanks to her influence. I would still be clueless without her! Haha.
Last but not least number 5, who is a GROUP instead of an individual. I lift with a group 2 or 3 days a week. I started this routine about 6 months ago, this past August. It’s funny how I actually got involved in powerlifting with them. Lex and I were out in Southside (a popular spot in Pittsburgh) and ran into our friend from high school and her boyfriend, John. I knew John was into something, I originally thought he did Crossfit, but he had recently gotten into powerlifting as well. I told him I was new to training and would like to learn more about it so I had some background knowledge for future reference. We exchanged info and eventually I was able to make it up to the gym he lifted at. My original plan was to just go a couple times and see what it was about, but I just never stopped going. I love everything about it: the people, the environment, getting better and stronger, (but definitely not faster.) The group is so encouraging and knowledgeable, their presence is addicting. Every week I look forward to the gym and seeing them. The atmosphere is always charged and positive, everyone speaks their mind and we all pick on each other and I know at the end of the day I could count on any of them if I needed something.
I’m not one to say things I don’t mean. I don’t use the term “best friend” loosely. I feel so blessed to have these amazing people in my life and to be able to call them my best friends. I keep them in my life because they make me want to be better and they believe in me. Those are the kinds of people I want to surround myself with. I want people who influence me, have good morals, and are close with their family, truly CARE about not only themselves but for the well being of others. Family means a lot to me and is such an important aspect in my life. I love my biological family but I also love the family I have been able to create over the past few years. I look at my circle of five and it makes my heart happy. Those are the kinds of people everyone should have in their life.
All comments are welcomed! I encourage you to use either the original prompt or to follow the one I tweaked. Please leave your link below if you chose to write about your Circle of Five!